I HATE falling head over heels in love with a manuscript, offering to the author, and then losing to another agent. It's weird to read that, right? I think a lot of authors don't realize that the agents are going through the same process they are, and that submissions on this side of the divide can be similar to what they experience.
In the logical part of my mind, I know rejection is something that happens to everyone, but it's still a big bummer. It's also the reason I always do my best to give helpful feedback to authors when I pass on their fulls, because I know the pain.
I lost out on something last week and a few other times already in 2016. All of the projects were awesome and they ended up with great agents, who I know will find them excellent homes, but I can't help but be a teeny bit mopey.
I have an on-going list of my unrequited authors, with asterisks next to their names when I see their deals listed on Publishers Marketplace. I recently went to lunch with an editor friend at S&S who admitted she does the same thing, and we talked about just how insanely unhealthy that is. It was made funnier by the fact that my meal with her was the epitome of health: fried pickle chips with ranch dressing and an extra-large Oreo milkshake.
I did, however, land one of the authors I'm crazy about a few day ago, and that is the amazing Georgina Penney!! She is fantastic romance author with great energy and awesome books, and I can't wait to start sending her out. I have calls set up with a couple others authors I'm very interested in this week, too, so I know I'll snap out of my funk soon.
Also, as John reminded me, I've gotten the biggest advances of my career this year so far, so it kind of balances out :)